As most of you know.. today is Dee & my one year anniversary! (June 2, 2012) Honestly I cannot believe it has been a year since we were married! It kind of just crept up on us. It just doesn't feel like it has been a year yet. It still feels like we got married yesterday. BUT we have had a wonderful first year together. Dee & I get along really well & we have fun together. In other words.. I married my very best friend, & I'm happy to say I get to be with him for all of time & eternity. I am a lucky lucky wife!! (:
So I just wanted to write 10 things I learned this first year of being married:
1. Usually if we are arguing... it's because we haven't gone to the temple that week, read our scriptures together, or we stop doing what we need to be doing. What I have realized (even more now that I am married) Temple marriage strengthens your marriage... Going to church together, attending the temple together regularly, & reading the scriptures together strengthens your marriage & brings you closer together. I am so happy to have the knowledge that I have. Marriage is hard... & without those things, I cannot imagine how much harder it must be.
2. My way isn't the only way... I think a lot of people can relate (who are married) that when you get married everything comes out. Little things that you hadn't known when you were dating will come out sometime during your marriage & you will learn to deal with it, or compromise. For example, in the beginning of our marriage I would just set my purse, or a book or something on the bed. It would irritate Dee because he couldn't stand having things on the bed. So throughout the first year I had to learn to not put things on the bed.
3. When we get into arguments, they're usually the most stupidest things ever. & I've realized that if it goes on for longer than 5 minutes, it's because I know I'm wrong & I am being prideful & won't admit I'm wrong. I have a sticky note with advice that someone wrote at our wedding on our bathroom mirror. It reads "admit you are wrong before trying to prove you're right first". It is so true. A lot of times I won't humble myself & say hey I was wrong I am sorry. I try to prove that I am right. & looking back none of it even matters, so I need to work on admitting I am wrong first. I try, but I am not always the best at it.
4. Doing things together is a lot of fun. Doing the dishes together is actually fun. It seems like it wouldn't be... But it is. Just being with Dee makes me happy. I've heard that a lot of people say after you get married you need "your" time A LOT! No.. I rather be with Dee every second of my life. & I'm thinking that is a good thing because I'm married to him for eternity, so I get to be with him for a lot longer than "every second". Yeah we have been married only one year.. but I just cannot imagine wanting to be away from Dee. Sure we need like a few seconds to just have our time... but not long periods of time.
5. I've realized that marriage isn't what you think it will be. You think you can just plan everything out. You think "oh I'm not ready for this, so we are going to wait" or you think you know how it'll be.. but you can't plan things, I've realized when are you ready for anything? How do you decide when you're "ready for something?" I've realized more than anything recently that I need to council with the lord before I decide anything. How can I decide that I'm not ready, if He knows when I'm ready for things better than I do? How can I make these big decisions without Him? He knows all things.. so what's better than asking him what I should do. I know the answer, we are afraid of the answer we will get so we decide that if we don't ask then we don't have to feel bad if we aren't doing what we should do. Like Multiplying & replenishing the earth... A lot of us decide "I'm not ready" or "I'm going to wait until I graduate college" or we think of a million excuses why we should wait... but If I have learned anything... it's the lord will strengthen us, provide for us, & guide us if we follow His commandments. I'm not saying anyone is in the wrong.. because I understand we all have our agency & we know what is best for us. & I know some of us pray for things & get different answers than others do. But I've been blessed to much not to ask the lord what I should & shouldn't do. So I guess all that I am saying is I've learned to lean on my Heavenly father, & savior Jesus Christ a lot more.
6. Trials can either bring you closer, or bring you apart... But you ultimately have to choice. If you want to stay close, you will work hard to come together... & if you don't care you will have a harder time. I've realized this from the trails Dee & I have had this year. But I feel like we have grown so much closer because of them.
7. Communication is one of the BIGGEST thing in a relationship. I've always known that... but I've realized that it's hard to communicate sometimes. Sometimes I just feel like everyone can just read my mind.. But really no one can. So I've realized I need to speak up a lot more.
8. I've realized I am a brat. I can honestly say I didn't know I was until I was married. & Yes I realized that right away. I like to to get what I want.. But who doesn't? haha It's been hard knowing that I am a brat.. but I think I've been working on it & I've gotten a lot better I would say. Also You realize other things about yourself... which is a good thing, because now I want to try to be a better person.
9. Two is better than one. Being Married is seriously the best thing EVER! I know Hollywood portrays marriage as a tie-me-down kind of thing.. but It's actually the best thing that will ever happen to you, as long as you're married to your best friend. I've realized I'm a better person when I'm not alone. I have more insight on things now, & I don't have to make every decision alone & a lot of other things. I love being married!
10. I am married to the best man in the world. You might disagree because "you're married to the best man in the world" but you aren't, because I am. He is the best man in the world because he always caters to my needs. He knows me, he loves me, not only does say it to me everyday, he shows me by proving it to me constantly! He has been my shoulder to cry on, he always has an open ear to let me vent about everything, he puts up with my bratiness.. He is the best husband in the world. He loves me & I love him. Knowing he loves me makes me the happiest girl alive.
Here are some pictures from this past year. I wanted to write about our wedding day but it is kind of hard to write about such an amazing day. I would want to write about every detail & that would take such a very long time. So I will just post pictures.
(pictures by Belle Reve Photography.. Except the last one of Dee & I, that's a picture my uncle Greg took).
(pictures by Belle Reve Photography.. Except the last one of Dee & I, that's a picture my uncle Greg took).
What an amazing day. It was one of the best days of my life & like I said I cannot believe it has been a year!! haha before I know it it'll be 10 years.. or 20 years.
Here is the video of Dee & my first dance together as a married couple:
My uncle Greg recorded it!
For our anniversary we went to Vegas. We decided to go last minute. It was definitely a nice getaway. We stayed at the Renaissance Las Vegas Hotel. It was actually a really really really nice hotel. It was probably as big as our apartment... maybe even bigger. haha Here are some pictures from our anniversary:
Like I said Dee & I had a wonderful first year together. I can't wait for the many other years to come!
I LOVE YOU DEE! Happy one year anniversary! (:
That's all for now!
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