Sunday, June 29, 2014

Little Cutie Baby! (#4)

Dee & I have made up songs to sing to Elsie because 1. We only know half the words to a lullaby, 2. We cannot remember any lullabies at the time, or 3. Maybe we just like making up songs? One of the songs is "Little baby Elsie, little cutie baby, little sweetie baby..." blah blah blah. (She smiles when I sing it to her so don't judge). Hence the title "Little Cutie Baby" Also ever since Elsie was born we have called her "little cutie" & Harper (our niece) started the "baby Elsie" So that is where the "little baby Elsie" came from.. just combining the two things. (:

Anyway....

 Time for some baby updates!
She sucks her thumb. It is so cute!!
She rolls over like a pro now.. back to belly then belly to back! She started this the beginning of June.. (4th)
She insists on rolling over when i change her diaper.
She talks to herself
Still gets frustrated easily
She reaches for everything she sees.
When I'm trying to burp her after she eats, she straightens her arms so she can look at the burp cloth. (She ends up going cross-eyed) Then she grabs it & starts talking to it & puts it into her mouth. So cute!!
Still wearing size 2 diapers.
She wears some 3-6 month clothing.. but can still fit into a lot of 0-3 month clothing. She is kind of in between.
She gets her 4 month shots on Monday June 30. Not looking forward to that AT ALL!!
Still loves bath time.
Hates getting rubbed with lotion. ):
Still only takes a bottle from me or Dee.
She loves when I read to her. She tries to grab the book, then she starts talking to it, & the whole time she hits the book with her hands.
She can pinch.. & let me tell you, it hurts!!
She loves peek-a-boo! She smiles everytime! & sometimes she laughs!
She loves sleeping in our bed. (I've made the mistake of letting her nap in our bed during the day) She sleeps longer when she is in our bed, & quite frankly I do not blame her! Our bed is seriously heaven. & her pack n play honestly does not look comfortable.
She laughs when we "eat" her bare belly or "eat" her fingers.
She throws fits when things aren't going how she wants them to go.. she throws her head back, cries, & makes her body as straight as a board. (Its really frustrating!!)
She likes the sound of her nails scratching things.
She thinks she can look around while she is eating then gets mad because she wants to eat & look around at the same time. Its just not possible!
She can sit supported now.
She laughs!!
She kind of reaches for us
I think she is starting to know her name. I said Elsie three times & each time she looked up at me, but it could have been a coincident?
Sometimes when she wakes up from a nap or in the morning she will play in her crib. Meaning she rolls around, does 180s, "talks" REALLY loud, plays with her blue monkey (the first toy we bought her before we even knew she was going to be a girl), & sucks on her hands. It is definitely cute!
Her eyebrows turn red when she is sleepy (this isn't new.. I just forgot to mention it in past blog updates about Elsie)
She can be a real big crankster if she is sleepy. I thought trying to get her to breastfeed & fighting her everytime the first week she was born was hard... I was so wrong. Trying to fight a cranky, active, rolling over, strong baby is WAY harder to try to get them to eat. Just sayin.
She sleeps on her belly or side now. She rolls over in her sleep once I set her in her crib.
She is teething. ):
She is always moving.. even in her sleep!! She has been doing this since she was born though.
She laughs in her sleep! (:
She can sit supported now.
When she sees something new, she looks at me (after she touches it) like she is asking "what is this" it is so sweet. I love when she does that!
Last week she weighed around 16 lbs
Thursday June 5, 2014:
Sometimes it is way too hard to be a mom & sometimes I feel like quitting. I just wish Elsie would go to sleep at the same time EVERY night. I mean like between 8:30-9:30 or between 9-10. Or whatever. But no. It always varies. Like between 9pm-12am. (12am is very rare by the way she usually falls asleep for the night before 11:30). Sometimes I wish I could just finish what I'm doing.. or lay around & read or do something for myself.. or just relax. Or lock myself in my room & never come out. Sometimes I just feel like crying.

Then I feel bad. I feel like I'm a horrible person for wishing that because I absolutely love Elsie more than anything! (Besides Dee & other family members) I wouldn't trade her for anything. I love watching her learn & grow & I love her cute little chubby cheeks. I love her cute little smile. It makes me feel like I'm doing everything right. It makes me feel like she knows Dee & I love her. I really do love her. & I really do love my job. But just like any job there are days where you wish you didn't have to go in. You wish you could call in sick & read all day instead. Days where you want to leave work early.. or just take a dang break! & tonight is definitely one of those days! 
Monday, June 9, 2014:
Okay, I do not know how I got so lucky to have Elsie in my life! Heavenly Father definitely sent us an angel! She is perfect! She is everything to us! & she is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I love watching her learn. I love seeing a world through her eyes. She is SO pure! She is so innocent! I love her!! Recently she has started to reach for things & explore them. Last night she was looking at the shower curtain before her bath. I went to set her in the bath & realized she had gotten a hold of the curtain & started "talking" to it. That's her new thing! Reaching for things & once she has it in her hands she starts "talking" to it then it goes straight to her mouth. I'm going to miss this when she is older. I keep getting anxious with how fast time is going by. I want to take all of this in! I don't want to miss any thing! I don't want to forget! I don't want time to do fast! She is growing up! She rolls over now. (Since June 4th). & she does it any chance she gets! Even when she is in our arms. She is learning so fast! & in a couple weeks she will be 4 months! I don't want her to grow up!


Friday, June 13, 2014:
I hate rough days. Elsie keeps screaming at me!! I can't seem to do anything right today. If I put her down she rolls over gets stuck & starts crying. If I try to eat she screams at me. If I sit down she screams at me. If I don't rock her the right way she screams at me . If I pretty much do ANYTHING, she screams at me. She sure is cranky! She usually does this when she is tired. But today just feels more rough than usual... Good thing its date night tonight... We are leaving her with Dee's mom longer than we have ever left her with anyone before. I'm a little anxious, but it needs to happen!

Continued from June 13, 2014:
Okay Elsie just fell asleep.. she looks so innocent when she is sleeping. I feel like I've become bipolar because now I just want to snuggle/cuddle with her all day & forget about everything I have to do. She is so cute. & how did she gets so big?? How is it that she is already 15 weeks?? & She will be four months in about 2 weeks. I don't want her to grow up! Time? Please slow down! ):

Saturday, June 14, 2014:
I always hate when I have to do something between 12-3 because that's usually when Elsie will take a hour nap..  & if I'm lucky a 2 hour nap! & if I'm really really lucky a 2.5 hour nap. Today a nap longer than 30 minutes would have been really really nice. Mainly because I have a HUGE headache that does not want to go away.. & because I don't have any chores to do today so it would have been nice to read. Oh well! It is what it is! 


Monday, June 16, 2014:
Elsie can sit supported now. I think she wants to sit by herself so badly. When we lay her on her back she lifts her head & legs up like she is trying to get up.. kind of like a bug that gets stuck on it's back. OH!
Last night Elsie was laughing at me. It was so cute. She was in the bath tub & she looked at me & reached her cute little baby hand out at me & started smiling at me. Then she started laughing. Awww(: She laughs a lot now. This is really recent.
 Wednesday, June 18, 2014:
Sometimes I forget about everything I have to do & just lay in bed with my baby. I even find myself just staring at her for hours. Mostly wondering how I got so lucky to have this wonderful little spirit. I also find myself wondering how she got so big! Wasn't she just born yesterday?? & I find myself falling more & more in love with her every day. (Didn't think it was possible to love her anymore than I already do). She is so beautiful! I love watching her learn. I love hearing that laugh! I love hearing her loud voice! I love when she rolls over half way so she is on her side looking into my eyes & then seeing her cute smile!! She knows I love her. & she loves me. I love being a mom!! I love when her little baby hands grabs my face followed by a big smile & cute laughs! I love watching her! I think its because I'm afraid if I blink an eye.. she will all of a sudden be 10. I'm going to miss this. Its going too fast!!

 Friday, June 20, 2014:
Sometimes I think about how I want more kids.. especially on the days Elsie is being so sweet & cute.. & when I watch her sleep or eat. Or when she laughs at me or smiles. & just looking at her cute perfect round face... But right now is not one of those times I think about having more. This is one of those moments where I don't want anymore kids because I've just about had it. I cannot get Elsie to go to sleep! I know she is sleepy because she is so cranky! She keeps screaming & crying. I have to keep praying to have patients, understanding, & a miracle of strength to get though this. It's 15 minutes past midnight & still no luck. Luckily Dee & I started to take turns rocking her for the last 30 minutes. He then got the brilliant idea of "maybe she is too hot" that seems to be the reason she was throwing a fit. She is starting to get drowsy & Dee is currently trying to rock her to sleep. Ahh! Life of a mom... Life of a parent is SO hard! Ahh.. she is sleeping. It's 12:20! Please please please please stay asleep!! I'm beyond tired.

Oh & on a positive note, Elsie found her toes/feet tonight. & just this past Tuesday Elsie started watching me eat food. Her eyes would look at my plate of food then at my month where the fork full of food was going. She might start showing interest sooner than later!
Saturday, June 21, 2014:
The last couple of nights have not been fun. The first night Elsie only slept 4 hours straight.. she barely napped during the day as well. Last night she only slept 5 hours straight. Elsie is teething... No I haven't seen a tooth yet, but all the signs/symptoms are definitely there. She is super whiney. She has been crying a lot. She is restless. She won't sleep. She has been gnawing on EVERYTHING. poor little baby! ): I was reading about teething yesterday & it said it can take up to 3 months for the tooth to finally come in /: I haven't seen a tooth yet.. so we will see. Hopefully it comes sooner rather than later. This isn't fun for Elsie.. or mama. We brought her back to our room. It is just way too hard getting up every second to go into her room to get her at night. No she isn't actually in our bed. Still in her own bed but in our room now. I decided to give her Tylenol last night to help her sleep..  it most certainly did not help. ): I don't really know how to help her sleep better. I can't give her teething tablets until I talk to her doctor because it said if she is still nursing ask a doctor before use. Poor Elsie ): she has been so cranky lately. Now I know why!! & now the no sleep thing is making it even worse ):  let me just say one thing... I am so grateful for my hubby Dee. He helps me out so much! I wouldn't be able to do this without him! 



Thursday, June 26, 2014: 
Sorry I've been MIA lately. It has just been one of those weeks! Elsie's tooth still hasn't come in yet. I mean I think it's finally trying to cut through when I looked this morning. BLAH! Elsie didn't sleep at all last night. I feel like I went back in time to when Elsie was first born & she would only sleep 30 minutes at a time. She was so tired though. She had her eyes closed like she was asleep.. but she would be crying & whining while I held her & rubbed her back. (If I put her down she would scream bloody murder). poor Elsie. She is finally sleeping.. I think because I finally gave her some teething tablets. Those things seem to help! Why didn't anyone mention that teething was HORRIBLE?? I mean I knew it would probably suck... but I didn't think it would be this bad. ): plus why did she decide to get teeth at 4 months? couldn't she have waited until she was 1? haha I'm joking of course. I cannot believe Elsie is four months today!! Time is seriously going too fast.

That's all for now!


Thursday, June 12, 2014

Because I'm Beautiful Too!

I don't usually do this.. but here goes nothing...

I gained 40 pounds while I was pregnant. I hate gaining weight. I hate stepping on scales. I become obsessive when I do. (Those of you who stay updated with my blog.. know why. You can read that here if you'd like).

Constantly I had to remind myself.. its JUST the baby. Relax!

Before getting pregnant I weighed about 148-150ish. (When Dee & I got married I weighed 145. I didn't really gain or lose weight after getting married like most people do. I think I probably lost a lot after the miscarriage too.. but then I gained it back plus some after the D&C).

By the end of my pregnancy I weighed about 190! That is the most I have EVER weighed in my life. As I stepped on the scale 6 days before Elsie was born & saw that big 190 I wanted to cry. I felt insecure. My husband just saw I weighed 190! How could I possibly weigh that much!! I was told with my BMI I was only supposed to gain 30 pounds. I must be fat! I thought. I gained an extra 10 pounds! I felt like I couldn't look at myself after that. My heart kept telling me: Michelle you're pregnant! This happens when you're pregnant, & that's okay! My brain on the other hand was telling me: you're fat! You're fat! You're fat. Over & over.

I got over it. I convinced myself, its JUST the baby! I will lose ALL of this weight after she is born!
After Elsie was finally born on February 26.. I instantly felt weight taken from my body. It was the weirdest feeling! & after the placenta was delivered I felt more weight taken from me as well. My belly went down. It still looked like I was 6 months pregnant. But things were different! (I actually found myself missing my belly).

A few weeks or so went by & my belly seemed to be going down. I thought I looked so good! Dee kept telling me, "babe you're looking skinny". It boosted my self-esteem. Until recently when I realized that I felt skinny because for the last 9 months (probably less) I had a huge pregnant belly!

After giving birth I weighed 172. (The most I've ever weighed not pregnant). For some reason when I stepped on the scale I thought the number on the scale would be the number I was pre pregnancy.

I felt defeated. I felt like all the thoughts of "I look good" or "you look skinny" from Dee were for nothing. I wasn't changing I was still big!! 172! No way!

I began to tell myself, well you're breastfeeding so everything will just melt off in a couple months. You'll be back there in no time!
Nope! I weighed myself again 2 months later. 171. 1 pound gone in 2 months?? WHAT!

I told myself I needed to go on a diet. I told myself I needed to lose this weight. I was the outcast of breastfeeding mothers! I wasn't losing the weight! What was wrong with me? Why does my body hate me? Why does God want me to suffer?
A couple months of thinking that. I became selfish. I recently started a diet. A diet that at one point help me lose a lot of weight making me weigh the least I've ever weighed since before high school. 135. I wanted those same results.

Well I lost some weight. I'm hovering between 167-168 now. Still more than I've ever weighed in my life.

One day as I was feeding Elsie & had nothing else to do so I asked myself: how come I'm always hungry? How come the last time I did this "diet" I could just eat oatmeal for breakfast, an apple & string cheese for a snack, rice, zucchini, & chicken for lunch, celery & peanut butter & cherry tomatoes for another snack, & last of all a salad for dinner, every day & be full all day! I just didn't understand.

Then as clear as day I got a thought in my head. You are not the same as you were then. Your body is providing for you & your baby. You don't need to diet now. Eat healthy, yes. But you have time to lose the weight.

I felt like an idiot. I was selfish. Only thinking about myself instead of thinking about Elsie. I just got over the "fourth trimester" & I have time to shed this weight. It'll happen. As long as I stay active & eat healthy & stop obsessing over it.

Its so easy to get wrapped up in feeling helpless because you don't see the results you want right away. But it'll happen even if it happens slowly.

I haven't been myself lately. I never want to leave my apartment because that means everyone has to see my imperfect body. My fat mommy body. I've felt so insecure. I've felt so much hatred towards myself.

Its just sad what our world thinks. If you are not skinny: you are not beautiful! I've thought I was fat since 5th grade! 5th grade! A 10 year old thinking they're fat? How sad! Parents! We need to be better. We need to teach our children its okay to be themselves.(obviously while teaching healthy living at the same time in a loving way). We need to teach them they are beautiful children of God! We need to teach them that everyone is beautiful! We need to love our bodies! We need to stop comparing. We need to be the role models for our children. Once you say those words "I'm fat" in front of your children, freak out, or talk about your body in a disgusted tone, your kids hear that! Your kids believe what you say!! That's why people think if you're not skinny you're ugly. That's why children are starting to think they're fat when they're six years old and develop eating disorders! Your children look up to you! Once you say those words "fat is ugly" they believe you. They wonder.. am I fat? Do my parents not love me because I'm fat? My parents won't accept me because I'm fat. Then they obsess over it. You are the cause of your child's eating disorder because of what you said! You made them feel like you wouldn't accept them if they're fat. You can't love them because they're fat. Stop it people! Be a good role model.

I vow to never be that kind of parent to Elsie. I vow to never say things like eww she's fat or eww I'm fat! Etc. I don't want Elsie to go through what I've gone through. Obsessing over being fat. When I wasn't! I was just me!

I know now that there is nothing wrong with me. My body just went through the most traumatic thing ever! I carried another living being inside of me for 9 months! & the first 3 months of it my body was creating brains, organs, & other essential things that human bodies need. My body spent 9 months stretching & growing because a beautiful baby was growing inside me & my body needed to make room for her. My body pushed an infant out of me so she could have a life here on earth. My body did amazing things! So, so what if I have some love handles now? So what if my belly isn't as flat as it once was? So what if my skin isn't as "perfect" as it once was? So what if I'm not perfect? My body (with the help of God & obviously my husband) gave me the best gift of all. A healthy, beautiful baby girl! & that's all that should matter. My body doesn't hate me.

God doesn't want me to suffer. He wants me to just love the body He gave me. I have been ungrateful & have blamed Him for my "imperfections", & I'm being ungrateful for the amazing gift he has given me! Sometimes we have to make sacrifices. & having children is definitely one of them! Women go through 9 months of sickness, pain, weakness, etc. Their body is not the same after having a baby! & how can it be?? But I do know one thing, even though we suffer... we receive the best gift ever! A beautiful baby! & that makes feeling fat & ugly feel so small. After seeing Elsie's sweet innocent little face looking up at me each & every day. I say to myself I would never give up having this sweet angel to be skinny or even have my old never been pregnant body back. She is worth it!
I want to be better. I need to be better. Otherwise Elsie is going to be obsessive, & I don't want that.

I am beautiful! I am beautiful because I am a daughter of God. I am beautiful because my body can do great things. I am beautiful because I am ME! 





Friday, June 6, 2014

High-five Friday!

I decided I want to try & blog at least once a week, I'm going to try & shorten my posts, & switch things up! Today I'm going to do a "high-five" Friday post. I've seen a couple other bloggers do this, so I decided I would give it a try. I always try to overload my posts because I'm that kind of person that likes to tell every detail.. instead of getting straight to the point. I think this "high-five" Friday thing just might help.. I will have to get creative on other blog posts so I'm not always doing "high-five" Fridays. Well here goes nothing...

Numero uno (1):
Elsie got blessed! Such a sweet, wonderful, family filled, & spiritual day! In other words Elsie's blessing day was perfect!
Number 2:
We celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary.. uh still cannot believe its been 2 years already!!


Number Three (3):
I'm (maybe?) a little crazy, but I love stocking up on things & saving money! I absolutely love looking at my "collection" of whatever I stocked up on. Usually its dried pastas, cereal, toothpaste, peanut butter, etc. But in this case its diapers & wipes! That's what happens when you have kids. We don't have to worry about buying anymore until the middle or maybe the end of September! (Yes, I am the kind of mom that keeps track of how many diapers... & wipes... she goes through in a day so I know how long a box of diapers is most likely going to last).


Number IV (4).
I was super excited about my growing supply of frozen milk (you know because I love "stocking up" on things).. but then I realized we are moving & she never drinks from a bottle from anyone but me or Dee.. so basically these are never going to get used & I'm a little sad. I know "don't cry over spilt milk" (literally) but in this case it is SO different!!
Number 5.
 Elsie can roll over from her back to her belly & her belly to her back now. & she insists on doing it any chance she gets!




That's all for now!
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